It is your inner child whom can give you the answers you seek. Each time you´re triggered it´s your opportunity to receive the messages he/she has for you and heal the wounded aspects of yourself that so desperately need love.
All of us have experienced trauma whether we are conscious of this or not, most of those traumatic memories lie in the subconscious mind and are unresolved "issues". Those are the wounded aspects of ourselves, our hurt inner child, our shadows.
As children we didn´t get many of our needs met, simply because those around us in our upbringing didn´t have the ability to do so, which is understandable. Our parents, siblings, teachers, caretakers, they also had many wounded aspects within themselves which didn´t allow them to be there for us like we needed them to, they were just doing their best.
It may seem unfair that an innocent child would be born in a dysfunctional family but there is a higher plan. For the sake of our own expansion, and therefore the expansion of the whole Universe we chose to have these experiences.
It is in painful experiences in which we expand and learn the most, however many of us feel a lot resistance towards it, which is also understandable, this is yet another thing we have learnt, to walk away from pain.
Children have way less resistance towards painful emotions than adults do, if they feel sad, scared, angry they will fully embrace, experience and express the emotion, and when they are done they just flow with a different emotion effortlessly.
This is our nature, to flow with our emotions without labeling them as "good" or "bad".
Now that we are adults, we are the ones in charge of our inner child, it´s our responsibility, it is our choice to either neglect him/her or give him/her the attention needed for healing.
This is how I see it... Every time you are triggered its your hurt child asking desperately for your attention saying "Help me! Help me, please!"
Whenever you chose to look away, distract yourself and repress the emotion you´re telling that hurt child "Leave me alone! I don´t want to hear you, go to your room and stop crying!"...You see how NOT loving that is?
How different could it be if instead you´d prioritize giving that child the attention they need from you? To be fully and unconditionally present with your inner child no matter how uncomfortable it gets and meet their needs.
BAM! That is when healing occurs.
"BUT HOW do I do that?" You may think...
There are many ways to start the healing of your inner child, my particular favorite is The Completion Process from Teal Swan, I highly recommend reading her book, it´s a gem! I´ve been working on the wounded aspects of myself for many years and I have to say I have never found something so powerful, effective and complete. I practice The Completion process in my own life and I often facilitate it for others in my Counseling sessions and I´ve seen amazing results.
There are also other therapies like Rebirthing which can help, this is a very personal thing, it´ll be different for every person.
What can you start doing now?
Your inner child is always present within you, with every act of self-love healing occurs. Changing your habits to more self-loving habits. Not to please other people, not to do what we have been told to be "right", but doing what truly feels right.
My biggest piece of advice? FEEL YOUR FEELINGS.
Start today, there are no "bad" or "good" emotions, it all depends on what meaning you give to them. For me every emotion is welcomed and worth being felt and experienced.
Every emotion has its purpose and it is 100% valid, even if we don´t fully understand it at first, we can get to understand it by exploring our subconscious mind, and it is our emotions which can take us there...
Being able to rely on yourself emotionally is priceless.
No one is saying that feeling painful and uncomfortable emotions is easy, but in the long run it´ll make your life A LOT easier and that´s how you truly strengthen the relationship with yourself.
To commit to giving yourself love and attention, not just when you feel happy but also when you feel pain, that is true self-love.
Positivity is not something you need to force, because it is our natural state and it is the result of doing shadow work and healing.
The more we give love to our inner child the more we return to our true nature; freedom, joy, creativity and innocence ♥
There is a lot to say about this entire topic but I hope this introduction was helpful. I am sending so much love your way!
Emotional Healing Facilitator, Psychic & Extassensory Crystal Child. Catalyst.
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